Remember & Recount
how you’ve been welcomed and received
Linger
Resist the urge to rush out—stay a few extra minutes after church, group, or events. Give space for spontaneous connection and meaningful conversation.
Engage Someone NewMake it a habit to introduce yourself to someone you don’t know. Ask questions like, “How long have you been coming here?” or “What brought you today?”
Extend InvitationsInvite someone to coffee, lunch, a walk, or to join you for an activity you enjoy (sports, crafting, hiking, etc.). Be specific and follow through—“I’m free Thursday; want to grab coffee?”
Celebrate & Honor Life MomentsRecognize and celebrate milestones like birthdays, new babies, graduations, new jobs, retirements, moves, or even the “last first day of school.”
Host Something CasualCultivate low-pressure gatherings such as:
- Game or Puzzle Night – Pull out a simple board game, card game, or community puzzle. People can join in or just chat on the side.
- Soup & Bread Night – Make one pot of soup (or even buy it pre-made) and serve with bread. Super easy and comforting
- Potluck Snack Night – Ask everyone to bring a snack or drink to share. That way the burden doesn’t fall on the host.
- Fridge-Clean Out Potluck – Everyone brings a container of leftovers from their fridge (or pantry odds and ends). You lay it all out buffet style, and people try small bites of each.
- Outdoor Firepit or Porch Hangout – If you have outdoor space, just gather with blankets, chairs, and maybe s’mores. Very casual.
Write Words that Build Up
Send a handwritten note, email, or text message to affirm someone—share what you see in them, how they’ve encouraged you, or just that you’re thankful for them.
Follow Up with CareWhen someone shares about an upcoming appointment, test, or challenge—set a reminder to check in afterward. A simple “Been thinking of you—how did it go?” means a lot.
Take Someone a MealSign up (or initiate) a meal train when someone is sick, had a baby, or is overwhelmed. Keep it simple—order takeout, drop off frozen meals, or make a double portion of your dinner.
Share ResourcesBe willing to allow others to use/borrow what you have
Pray for Guests and New Opportunities Got plans with someone, pray for them before your meeting. Going to a gathering, pray for opportunities to extend welcome to others.
Grow as an IlluminatorLearn the art of question asking